How school phobia can be avoided? 
Excessive absences, tardiness and school phobia (an intense fear of going to school) may be the result of difficulties at home. When these behaviors occur, your child’s schoolwork will suffer. These behaviors are a symptom of a much greater problem than should be addressed before it becomes worse. A child who fights with parents each day before going to school arrives at school in a bad mood and leaves a very discouraged parent at home. Both school life and home life suffer. If your child is constantly in the teacher’s office asking to go home, or if he has a tummy ache or a headache each morning, he is telling you something is not right. School teachers can be another resource for parents. If you suspect your child’s physical ailments may be school related, talk to the school teacher. Teachers see more children in a day than parents would ever imagine. They are excellent evaluators of children’s levels of stress and their emotional well-being. You also need to look at what is happening at school and at home for a clue to this need to be home. When parents work closely with the school, it is usually easy to tackle the “problems” that are causing a child’s anxiety. Some children perceive incidents at school as much more serious as they are. Maybe a child is upset because her best friend is having lunch with someone else. Maybe a teacher’s style is loud and threatening to a sensitive child. Maybe a child was scolded in school for some kind of misbehavior. Children don’t always see these incidents as minor. So try to listen carefully when your child talks about school. When you acknowledge your child’s feelings and emotions, you let her know it is OK to talk about her problem. Share what you learn from your child with her teacher. When teachers know a child is fearful or worried about a school situation, they can provide the extra attention necessary to help that child through the difficult moments. Once these issues are resolved, children are happier about going to school.
The birth of a new sibling or a family adoption cans sometimes create a problem with school attendance. Young children can feel their positions usurped by the new arrival and they feel threatened. They want to be at home, too, so their parents won’t forget about them. In order to feel secure, children need control in their lives. When that control begins to fail, children try to fill the void. They make themselves responsible for keeping things under control at home. Children of drug abusers or alcoholic know their parents are unable to hold things together at home. Sometimes they want to be there to care for the parents. Children who have experienced homelessness are frightened they will lose a parent or a place to live in again. They feel more secure when they are at home with their parents. Whether the problem is minor or major, children need to be in school. Don’t give in to the temptation to keep your child home. That rewards the behaviors-crying, tantrums, physical symptoms-students exhibit when they are afraid of school. If going to continues to be a problem for your child, consult your pediatrician.

School phobia can often be avoided with adequate preparation. Sometimes a child’s anxiety is related more to anticipation than to actual circumstances. If your child is transferring schools, or attending a new school for the first time, be sure to visit the school before the first day. Check out the school office, find the bathrooms, go to the canteen and introduce your child to his teacher and to several other adults in the building. Give your child realistic expectations about school. There will be a playtime and work time. When children are adequately prepared, new school situations usually don’t create problems. Because parents and teachers share a common goal: the nurturing and instruction of children. Look your school as a source of support and support your child’s teachers and school administrators when they call on you.