Little people make big messes, and unfortunately for orderly parents, small children are almost always oblivious to their self-made clutter. Knowing that your child isn’t deliberately messy but simply unaware of the need to clean up, teach her (the younger the better) that messes don’t disappear magically – the mess maker (with helpers) cleans them up. Share this fact of life with your child, but don’t expect perfection in her following the rule. Encourage rather than demand neatness by praising the slightest attempt your child makes at playing the cleanup game.

How to prevent this problem: Show your child how to put away her toys immediately after she’s done with her playing, limit clutter as she bounces from one  plaything to another. Help her pick up the picking - up habit early in life, to encourage her to be a neater child and, show her how to clean up her mess. Provide appropriately sized boxes and cans in which your child can store her toys and other playthings. Show her how to fit things inside the containers and where they go when they’re filled. Be as specific as you can.  Instead of asking your child to clean up her room, tell her exactly what you would like her to do. Provide adequate cleanup supplies. Don’t expect your child to know what to use to cleanup her mess by herself. Example, give her the right cloth to clean the table. Be sure to praise all her cleanup efforts after you’ve given her the tools of the trade. Avoid potential catastrophes by letting your child play with messy materials (finger-paints, clay, markers, crayons, and so on) in appropriate places. (Don’t expect her to know not to destroy the living –room carpet when you’ve let her fingerprint in there.)

How to solve it:  If your child refuses to cleanup mess she’s made, make her fun dependent on doing the job you’ve requested. Remember that a child one year old or older can help cleanup in small ways. She needs to try her best at whatever level she can, slowly building up to more difficult tasks. Sometimes the cleanup job is too big for a young child’s muscles or hands. Join in the work to encourage sharing and cooperation-two lessons you want your child to learn as a preschooler. Mom or dad helping to clean up makes the activity much more inviting. When your child is trying to beat the timer, picking up toys is a fun game instead of an arduous task. When your child is successful at beating the clock praise her accomplishment and follow through on your promise.
At the end, praise your child’s cleanup efforts, encourage your child to clean up after herself by using a powerful motivator-praise! Comment on the great job she’s doing putting away her toys. Say, “Thanks for helping clean up your room.” The fact that she’s trying means she’s learning how to do it. She’ll improve overtime.
Don’t ever punish your child for the mess he or she makes, because punishing her for being messy will not teach her the cleanup skills she needs to learn. And when the child follows the cleanup mess in early stage of life, they follow these ways throughout their life.