With the divorce rate and the threat of extramarital flings at an all time high, wouldn’t you be open to learning the secret of long time love? So here are some experts’ tips on keeping these dangers at bay and how to solve the following hurdles:  

The Myth Of Happily Ever After
So many marriages fail because we have unrealistic expectations, say the experts. We’re brought up to believe that it will all end happily ever after when you walk down the aisle. Remember that first flush of love? Everything was rosy because you didn’t know each others annoying habits, had no joint commitments and hadn’t yet dealt with tricky issues such as sharing finance and childcare.
What to do: Get real. “Relationships require effort, just like anything else,” says relationships expert Denise Knowles. “Don’t assume that because the initial thrill has worn off, there’s something wrong. Communication is key. Every so often, discuss how you feel about your life together and your plans for the future. It’ll keep you in touch with each others feelings and nip problems in the bud.”

No more ‘Ha, Ha, Ha’
When psychologists carried out a study of 6,500 women in relationships, they found that money, family and work pressures left love on the back burner.
What to do:   Have a laugh. Do the fun things that you used to do. You may have outgrown clubbing, but doing things both love bring back memories. It’ll also help you snap out of parent or work mode and become a couple once again. A couple of suggestions-go skydiving, on Nature treks, watch old movies, do whatever made you roll about in laughter… comedy movies, gossip sessions… whatever’s your poison.

Stewing In Silence
Suppressed resentment leads to huge fights. If you silently take all the annoying habits that your partner repeats every day, bigger problems are not far off.
What to do:  Tackle problems. Never let resentment stew. Niggles soon get out of proportion. If you’re unhappy with your partner’s behavior, confront him before you get angry. The biggest mistake is point the finger. For instance, say, when you forget to wipe round the bath, it means the next person has to clean it up and it sets a bad example to the kids, rather than, ‘you’re a total slab.’

No more Intimate Rushes
When two people are together for a while, the easy camaraderie tends to make you forget the intimate rushes you felt the initial stage of the relationship.
What to do:  Hold his gaze. Eye contact is crucial to intimacy and gazing into each others eyes is a classic sign of love. According to Harvard psychologist Zick Rubin, looking at someone for 75 per cent of your time together triggers the brains production of a love chemical called phenyl ethylamine.

No more dates:   
Okay, so you have reached the stage where dating has become a distant memory. When people stray, the idea of those first dates and the excitement you feel at impressing someone new is extremely tempting. You’re living together, why could you bother with going out too much any more?
What to do: Make a date. If you feel particularly good, dress up for him again. Choose a time you can commit to-if you have kids; send them to a friend’s place. And then stick to the date, even if you don’t feel like it. You wouldn’t cancel a meeting at work because you felt tired, would you? If you live with someone, it’s easy to let it slip, but how much you do really communicate? Discussing chores and kids don’t count.

We’re so predictable! 
You know each other so well; you can predict his responses now.           And that bores you, doesn’t it?

What to do:  Get connected. So, you’ve been together a decade and think you know everything about each other? Wrong! Try games that makes you ask each other questions about your pasts, about your relationship, etc. go on the web and play couple games. Ask each other questions like, ‘when did you first know we’d end up together?’ or ‘How different did you feel the first ‘morning-after’? You’ll be surprised at the closeness that’ll you’ll feel at discovering things about each other. You’ll both remember what you fell for each other.

No More Touchy Feel
Your sex life has hit an all-time low. You simply don’t have the time or the inclination any more.
What to do: Be bold in bed. Studies show physical contact in a relationship produces oxytocin, a chemical that helps couples bond. Shut out the world by lightening candles, burning oils, playing relaxing music, scattering cushions… anything to help you switch over to lover mode.