There are relationships where staying together is for more mundane reasons. Like he's got nice friends, a nice family, or he buys you great presents. If you're more addicted to a safe partnership than a man's company, you're a comfort dater. And if you're not sure where you stand, the following will help you sort yourself out.

THE FAMILY
If your partner’s family welcomed you with open arms, you may put up with him/her just to stay part of the clan. Ask yourself why you are so attracted to this close-knit mob. Family becomes a big reason of staying with your partner. So if you are staying with the partner for his/her family and not for your relationship sake then it calls trouble. It could be because it's different from your own kin, in which case, you need to sort out your relationship with your own family. Then you won't need to cling on to someone else's.

FRIENDS
The worst of people sometimes have the nicest mates. If you like them more than your partner then you're stuck. Through your partner you get to hang out with all the interesting people. It becomes clear that you don’t want a proper relationship, but you surely want access your partner’s friends. You fear that once you get parted from your partner you wouldn't see the group any more and your social life would be lost to me.

LUXURY
If you're always broke, meeting someone who can offer creature comforts spells luxury. It is sometimes refreshing to have someone to spend money on you. You start admiring the luxuries more than your partner. If you want this lifestyle, think about how to get it under your own steam. Stop seeing the rich chap and, instead, take a course in anything that will make you rich. A golden cage is still a cage. It's better to hitchhike with someone you love than be bored to tears in a BMW.

THE SINGLE SYNDROME
If you think the alternative to your dull relationship might be withering into spinsterhood, you've got big problems. But then, breaking up makes you nervous with the fear of being single again. You worry about going back and finding someone else. Some people only feel right with someone on their arm. But let's face it; these people aren't proof of sanity or desirability. You really do have to love yourself. If you are dating people who do not deserve you, you're marking your self esteem low. Remember there are plenty of people who'd be glad to be with you.

The most interesting relationships are when two people are being themselves. You are more likely to be yourself if you feel safe with someone. So remember, feeling comfortable with someone isn't the same as finding comfort in the trappings of a relationship. You need to decide which one you are. And then take action.