What Makes a Truly Liberated Woman?

Do you really feel that liberation and emancipation mean that you have to be one up on men on everything? This is wrong because liberation just means that you have certain rights and privileges that are entirely yours. Fight for them, liberate yourself, and remove the shackle that bigoted society and uninformed family may try to burden you with. But be cautious, there are places you could go wrong in. so here are some suggestions for a truly liberated woman:

• Right to education: Your sensible partners will naturally encourage you, to study as high as you want. But they will also worry about finding a match with equal qualifications to marry you off to. Remember, whatever level it is that you want to achieve, in the past too, girls were at times more educated than their spouses. And the marriages that didn’t work had nothing to do with educational qualifications.

•  Wrong to misuse trust that you have been entrusted with. So don’t use the excuse of college to meat your beau or just chill out. It distracts you from your other serious goals in life and you could get used cheating.

• Right to a career: The argument women don’t normally enter this field doesn’t hold water any longer. For, there are man dominated areas but no male only bastions left standing. So be it sports, politics, engineering or defence forces, women make it there and on their own steam too.

• Wrong to let yourself be misled and end up doing things that you may live to regret serious issues like taking your health, body or morals for granted are bound to come back to you at sometime in your life. You will have to face your family, husband, children and most importantly, yourself at the end of the day.

• Right to marry, be single or have a live in relationship. Remember, it’s you who has to take the final call to choose whom to marry and when. Do not let parents, relatives or your lover coax, cajole or emotionally blackmail you into marriage. Marriage is probably the most important decision of your life and a mistake here can ruin and scar you for life. Trust your instincts, and it definitely is not abnormal to be single, nor does it indicate that you are unattractive.

• Wrong to take things lightly or to gamble with your life. Getting involved with a boy who drinks and smokes excessively, physically and verbally abuses you, or one who’s incapable of holding a steady job, is not a sign of an intelligent woman. It’s worse when you believe that you have to take up for him out of loyalty and commitment. Marrying him in the hope that things will get improve is suicidal.

• Right to bear children or not, irrespective of whether you choose to marry or live in. don’t let eager parents, grandparents or in laws make you rush, its decision that has to be taken by you and your partner.

• Right to lifestyle of your choice: nobody can dictate to you how you can lead your life, especially once you’re financially independent. You choose to wear, eat and drink, anything that is legal is permissible.

• Wrong to choose a deathstyle, for you will pay the price. Alcohol, drug abuse, promiscuity etc. not only affect you physically, emotionally and mentally, but your family too will have to pay the price for it. Do not give in to peer pressure or be deceived by movies.

Do not stifle yourself to feel liberated. Just make sensible choices, unmindful of peer and societal pressure; only then you be truly liberated.