Being in love or the idea of being in love is quite capable of transforming the world around us into some sort of fantasy. Many women do have secret desire to live with such a vision, and in this process, often cheat themselves out of living the love life of their dreams. By the time they realize, it’s already too late. So here are few tips that will help you in these situations:

• Great expectations: There is no such thing as a perfect relationship. It’s bund to have its flaws. If you take the perfect concept of your list, it will give a great start. So, don’t get into a relationship thinking that your love story must have a fairy tale ending. And don’t be sure about it making you happy either. Give it a chance, have an open mind, and see how it goes. Get to know the guy better, and in due course, if it’s destined to, it will all fall in place.
• Don’t assume that you get men and their psychology: He might be your best buddy, or just a mere acquaintance, but accept the fact that men are different from women, and work with it. He might be a great friend but not necessarily a great lover. Men are usually more visual, and they often don’t understand non verbal communication. Nor they work on the basis of emotional awareness or intuition like women do. So don’t live in the hope of him responding to your unspoken feelings.
• Let there be spaces: To some extent men like women who are emotionally independent. It’s important to keep that emotional distance during the courtship. This will later make him more open to hearing your problems out. It will also help in establishing a certain level of compatibility, so that he can also share his troubles with you.
•  Reality check: A lot of women always have an excuse for a guy’s shortcomings. This is mainly because you expect the guy to change, to be better lover and companion, and that you feel you must believe this will happen. You may feel that if you try hard enough, it will make up for what is lacking. You don’t want to waste your life on the mission that is quite impossible, because he is not really going to change. Don’t ever bet your love life on a guy’s potential.
• Out of control: The easiest way to drive a man away is by trying to dominate him. Once the line of control is pushed, then he starts seeing red. So give your guys wings, they would never want to fly away.
• Band of buys: Guys usually have nights out with their male friends. It’s very guy thing and that’s something they would never trade for the world. Steer clear from the track and the things will sail smoothly.

And just like the saying goes. ‘Don’t go after love, let it find you.’ If he is the one, good for you, and if he’s not, then so be it. But don’t give up hope either, and when it finds you, embrace it with your arms wide open.