Each one of us has a different definition of a successful marriage. To make marriage a success, it is very important that you treat the relationship in equality. It does not imply on dividing the household chores or paying the bills together. It is much more to that. It is all about respecting each other emotionally the way you would like to be. It is about sharing thoughts, ideas, causes, books, art, friends rather than the mundane matters that most other couples have to deal with.

A POSSIBILITY
Equality in marriage is very much possible. It just demands little effort. Don’t expect the things from your spouse what his personality is not about. You will be more confirming on that certain things are your responsibility and you have to deal with it. Even if your husband is not domesticated, it is because he has been like this for years and he just can’t change overnight. Accept the fact and look for the things he could help you. Even you have some limitations, make him see that and work on it.

SUPPORT EACH OTHER
Sometimes you might have to play multiple roles because of your partner’s inadequacy to contribute. That is what love is all about, creating support systems around each other. A successful marriage raises each other’s comfort levels, coming together in moments of crisis. There is nothing more beautiful than a nurturing relationship and that can only occur when both partners have their own space in which they find fulfillment. Then they negotiate the space and the generosity of giving. If one is not seeing to the interest of the other, then it surely won’t work. There had to be certain ground rules set by mutual agreement and then obeyed by both.

If there is no equality in a marriage, then such a marriage is impossible. However, equality does not mean similarity. It basically means you have to accept the other’s individuality and both partners have the right to dissension. It does not means that everything has to be shared together all the times, sometimes one needs his/her own space no matter how close you are in a relationship. A marriage is about give and take in the means of caring for the other person in various ways; emotional, intellectual, financial or any other mutually agreed upon form. The rules chores need not be divided along gender lines.

FRIENDSHIP FACTOR
There would be no signs of boredom if you will induce the friendship factor in marriage and friendship will surely give way to equality in the relationship. There are things to talk about, to discuss and do not hesitate to ask each other for professional advice. Support each other come what may like the best of friends. Depend on the other for support, criticism and reassurance. More than husband and wife, play friends and your relationship would be something to accomplish and preserve always.