Fatherhood-Part II

FATHERS & DAUGHTERS
The father and daughter relationship is very special. Fathers are more attached to their daughters in most of the cases. They are also very protective about them. Almost all daughters at some point of the life want their man to be like their fathers. It is a very special bond fathers and daughters share. A father should try to understand the facts of life as they affect your daughter. Learn to trust, to cope with things as they are, not as they used to or should be. Times have changed and your daughter has been born in today’s time. Let your doubts be backed by good reason. Instead of laying down the law, build up your daughter’s confidence by showing interest in her activities, achievements, aspirations. Don’t pressurize her by imposing your decisions. Appreciate and encourage her decisions in the career she would like to choose. Take her out to the places of interests like Art Shows. You will build a strong bond of trust and friendship with her and trust me you will knows where she goes, with whom and when she comes back even without asking. Teach your daughter about relationships with experiences and your attitude; you will be making her ready for a world that is half male. You influence the way she interacts with the opposite sex, her crushes, her husband, and her children. So set an example.

INDUCE VALUES & EMOTIONS
Your kids are observing and learning from you. Grumble and complain about your responsibilities and so will your kids. Show them the importance of fulfilling your commitments to other people, like when you must work overtime and can’t be with them. Never run out of your responsibilities towards work and family. You will enrich values to your children. Demonstrate strength rather than weakness, by the way in which you stand for things or issues that are important for you which may be petty for others. Deal with death with calmness and show your children that life goes on. It could be tough at the starting and it is good that you remember the person but the dead person would not like it if you stop living. Make them learn the importance of warmth and affection by the way you keep time for the family or do special things for the people you love.

DON’T EMBARRASS YOUR CHILDREN
Embarrassing your kids make them feel that you do not care for them. Never do the salsa bang in the middle of your child’s party. Don’t brag about your kids in front of their friends. Don’t make them perform, sing, dance for your friends. It really makes them very embarrassing. Avoid things your kids don’t like in front of others.

It will be a great day when fathers consider the care of their children to be as important to them as their jobs and careers.