Parents also stress their children in school by asking numerous questions to the teacher like ‘Why is she scared of you? Why does she cry every morning? She refuses to get ready. She wasn't like that before? Has someone hit her? Was she scolded?’ Sometimes the child is afraid of losing something precious like the teacher whenever the child sees the mother and the teacher with the fear that her mother and the teacher would talk ill about him/her.

The child dignity and self esteem is as important and equal as of an adult. Hurting the self esteem of the child can be very tormenting and stressful for the child. The first time, the child pukes in school or does potty in the pants it may be accidental or intentional. And the first reaction is getting angry on the children on why they did not tell earlier and we often ignore that there may be people around when we are scolding the child. Whether intentional or accidental, the teachers or the parents must ensure that the child’s self-esteem, dignity and pride do not get flushed down the drain. The teacher’s or parents attitude towards puke and potty must not show disgust or disdain. To soothe the child, their words, gestures and facial expression will offer assurance that it is ok and it happens sometimes.  If the child vomits in school, parents may ensure that the child is given a very light breakfast at least about an-hour-and-a-half before leaving home so that the light breakfast goes down and doesn’t stay stuck on the chest. If it is not digested, then at the first sign of stress or strain the breakfast will spill out and that will compound the stress. If the child soils his clothes in school, then parents must personally supervise that the child has done potty every morning before leaving for school. Morning potty is an excellent lifetime habit to be inculcated at a very early age. As a precaution, children who are not toilet-trained must wear a diaper during the first fortnight of school, or till such time they are toilet-trained.

Scolding your child in front of anyone is a sign of showing others that how bad your child is and it hurts the child emotionally especially when comparisons are made. The child feels very small and often feels left out. The child also looses trust he/she had in you. Sometimes they also feel guilty of making you in an embarrassing situation. No one is born perfect. Accept your children the way they are. Hug them often and even if you have to tell them something bad tell them in private but praise them in public. Give your child a stress free environment.