Every relationship has its own phases. Like in the courtship, we tend to have time only for our beloved. Then after marriage, we enjoy each other for a while then we get busy with the responsibilities of life. And then come the kids, we feel so complete but then you hardly get any time with each other. After the arrival of the child, the bond between the wife and husband definitely strengthens like there is more security, stability and commitment. However, there is a flip side as well. One does not have time for themselves and with each other. The romance, the vibrancy and the color starts fading away, and changing nappies, school donations; late night colic attacks and trips to the doctor take priority over love life. Not only women get affected by this but men are at unease too with the scenario.

One can be great as parents, but if you do not have a healthy and loving relationship with your spouse, it is likely to have a detrimental effect on your children. Children unconsciously pick up whatever they are exposed to like the behavior of their parents, the way they handle situations, their reactions, mannerisms etc. They are learning every minute of the time they spend with you. If parents are more expressive, more communicative and more loving in front of the child, it will encourage the child to believe in a healthy relationship.

That does not mean you pretend your relationship but relive the passion you once had with each other. Here are some tips:
1. Express yourself: Gentle hugs, light kisses on the cheek are great to show that you love each other so much. Physical and verbal expression of feelings is important in any relationship.

2. Build a support system: Taking care of the baby can get very tiring. Building a support system of friends, family members, maids etc goes a long way in giving you a breather.

3. Involve kids in your activities: While late night drives and parties can be difficult now, you can come up with creative ideas of involving kids in your activities. If you like dancing, have a dancing session at home with your child.

4. Be supportive: Parenting is a huge responsibility and brings about many changes in both parents. If your partner does not seem as attentive or as expressive as before, try to understand the pressure he or she may be facing and be supportive.

Don’t forget to do things you used to enjoy doing together earlier. Don’t forget that you are a couple too and seeing you two happy together will make the children happier. They will believe more in the relationships and will help them in their relationships with others in their growing years. They will understand the meaning of privacy between you two and will completely give you that without making you feel guilty about leaving them when you two go out for a dinner. Family time is important so spend time with the children together and don’t take some breaks for yourself too.