As new parents, life could be little hard as you are exhausted by other demands. Take help from family or friends. Especially in first weeks, everything from laundry to cooking and cleaning can be set aside in favor of baby time. Just getting out of the house for a little while can change the tone of your whole day if things aren’t going well. Take a long walk in the park, a trip to the zoo or meet with other moms and babies. Some parents are starting to experiment with such things as yoga and meditation, done alone or with baby.

These days there are gyms are offering exercise programmes that incorporate activities for both babies and mothers, or they are providing a small daycare room for kids. Maybe even an exercise DVD on your television while baby watches your moves nearby is another idea. Think positively. Focus on the things that you are enjoying about your baby, whether it is their sweet little toes or silly expressions.

It is harder for fathers to feel immediately close to their new babies. This is natural since usually moms get most involved right away with all the daily caretaking. There are lots of ways that dads can be involved, and obviously, it is equally important that they develop a strong bond with baby. Fathers can be themselves and build their own special relationship with their babies. Just holding, touching, talking and interacting with baby is a good start. Dads can do this alone, without an audience. This time can also give mom a nice break. Fun games like staring contests or peek-a-boo are usually appreciated.  Taking turns at diaper changes, handling bath time, doing chores around the house while baby is bundled in a carrier, or taking a stroll to the shop to pick up ingredients for dinner are all activities that dad can also do with baby.

Since you are both parents, and you have both been working hard all day, at home and at office, then maybe the evening and weekends can be the times to equally share the job of parenting. Again, it may just take a bit of time and dads will find their own ways to bond with baby. It is time for worry when many weeks have passed by and you still are not feeling comfortable with the baby as maybe you are sensing some sadness and resentment in your own behavior. Post-partum depression can be a serious condition that makes bonding extremely difficult. Ask for help. There are lots of strategies for dealing with post-partum depression or its milder version, called the baby blues, but the first step is always to detect the problem. Try not to be too hard on yourself.  There is no instant bonding formula so don’t put so much pressure on new parents that sometimes it’s hard to just relax and let the good feelings flow. Spend time together and just enjoy your baby, then soon enough, you will be sharing the most beautiful bond with your baby.