When we are in love, we suddenly like the way our name sounds, when our lover says it and then we often find cuteness in the things which may be irritating at times. May be that’s why they say that love is blind. If love is blind, then surely marriage is an eye opener. Many times we lose the passion we used to have for each other in early times after being married for many years. Think through the behaviors that make love a day-by-day reality and create down-to-earth commitments to shape and hold your marriage together. Whether you are in a relationship or not, think about the kind of behaviors that nurture love can help you build a better union. Though it may seem that love will last forever, but making it sustain takes lots of effort. Here are some ways to make the magic stay.
NEVER GO TO BED ANGRY
After a fight, it is easy to turn your back on your partner and fall asleep in your own little cocoon of misery. Making an overture at reconciliation is a much better plan than doing that. It is couple’s ability to bridge the gap after a squabble is one of the keys to lasting relationship success. On the other hand, if you are really at fault, an apology is the best possible bridge between two hearts.
KEEP THE ROMANCE ALIVE
Sometimes, responsibilities stresses on the marriage making no time and room for romance. Don’t stop doing things you used to love doing together in your early years. Go out to restaurants, movies, and clubs. Even if you can’t do it often, do it at least once in a while and make sure once in a while you do something special for each other.
BE HONEST
Most women lie about their feelings to placate someone else, a pattern guaranteed to breed resentment. For instance your partner decides to watch a cricket match with a buddy and incidentally it is also the night that you're returning from an exhausting week-long office trip. He assumes you want to unpack; you really want to spend the evening with him, but don’t want to be a nag. So you are cheerful and supportive when he runs the plan by you. But inside you are hurt and angry, and when he gets home after the game, you are resentful and touchy instead of delighted to see him. Be honest about your feelings as it promotes intimacy and cuts down on resentment. Never assume that the other will know your feelings just because you are in love, sometimes telling them honestly helps.
BE FAITHFUL
Fatal attractions happen. It is human nature to feel at least occasional sexual attraction to other people. Acting on those attractions, however, is where you have to draw line on if you really love your partner. The jealousy and anger that unfaithfulness breeds are the natural enemies of love and commitment.
TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF
Take care of myself physically and emotionally so that one remains vital for as long as one can.
CULTIVATE INTIMACY
Intimacy is a kind of mindfulness, a non-judgmental curiosity about what’s unfolding each moment for the other person. You cultivate it by listening deeply, without trying to solve each other’s problems or butt in with your own story.