Building deeper connections is not easy in an increasingly disconnected world; it must be continuously worked at. And yet, it could be as simple as getting down on the floor to play house-house, or cuddling up in bed. These strategies some from our experts have immense value for your kids, to give them an underpinning of emotional security that will work as a shock absorber for the rest of their lives.

• Give your kids prime position:
A child flowers when she knows you think she is special, and one way of making her feel top of your list is to be really involved in her life. Let her know you’re interested in what’s going on at school and at the playground. Make the time to play with your kids, share stories and jokes with them; ask for and respect their opinions.

• Establish special family moments and memories:
Creating special memories is very important, believes the experts. Walk around with them in the park, watching the rain come down with your child in your lap watching with you, a game of monopoly on a lazy Sunday morning, dancing wildly to rock music, sharing stories while sitting inside the kids tent on a Sunday afternoon. Deep bonds are created by shared moments. Experts say, we know that families are busy, but we also know that most mealtimes only last about 20 minutes. Studies show that the repetitive nature of the family mealtime allows families to get to know each other better which can lead to better parenting, healthier children and improved academic performance. Still, if your routines do not allow a daily family meal together, why not make a ritual of Sunday brunch?

• Start family traditions:
The continuously that is implicit in a tradition is instrumental in emphasizing a lasting connection. Easy traditions to begin include taking an annual family portrait, taking the kids for lunch on special occasions and deciding on a secret handshake or phrase that you can use to connect in the middle of the crowd.

• Celebrate religious occasions:
Religious occasions and the traditions connected with them also provide you a great opportunity to build family closeness. If you are spiritual minded, seek first a deeper relationship with god, and working towards family closeness will be easier.

• Create one on one time:
It seems impossible to factor into our busy lifestyle, but one on one time sure can be sneaked in. tote one kid along when you go shopping. Take each kid separately out for a meal, even just to near by walking. Give her your undivided attention.

• Create keepsakes:
Keepsakes help create memories, one of the greatest legacies of our own childhood and can be a bulwark against desperation for adolescents when they go through difficult times.

• Share your life:
Share your own bonds. Make sure that the kids see the closeness you share with your parents. Take them to your old school and to places you visited as a child. It will also help them see that you too, were young once, and that you value the people and places you associate with that time. Tell them your story of joys and sorrows, so that they can figure out, what makes you happy or unhappy.

• Maintain control:
Every child has a right to memories that do not involve images of parents being irresponsible drinking heavily, physically abusing each other, being unfaithful. Every child has a right to expect her parents to do what is good and right for her.

• Offer unconditional love:
The best way to perfect the bond between parents and children is for the parents to show that they love them unconditionally. In this world of consumerism, competition and one-upmanship, we often tend to fluctuate in our love and care and reaction shown to our children based on their perceived good performances. Make sure that you pat her back and shower her with the gifts and your love, whenever she score good marks or achieve something good. True love to me is when parents learn to accept the so called failures with equal grace. We also forget that often, the child cannot even perform beyond her ability and we cannot and should not blame her for her below par performances. Try encouraging a failing child and she will return the feelings by doing better.