ACTIVE CARING
Conditional love has created many knots of psychological trauma in lives. Accept people as they are and still caring for them is Active Caring. Integrating Active caring into human relationships, we surely would be able to nurture love. Parents and children love each other, husband and wife love each other and so on. Wrong signals in childhood are likely to influence an adult’s behaviour.

We in India are very duty-conscious. It is our duty to look after our children, it is our duty to respect our teachers, it is our duty to obey our superiors at work, and it is our duty to look after our elderly parents. If we substitute the word ‘love’ for the word ‘duty’, every problem would be solved.

LOVE AT WORK
We associate the words ‘caring’ and ‘liking’ for love. Once you accept caring as a work place principle, it is not difficult to visualize the role of love in that area. Love the work you are doing. Care/like the clients you serve every day in and day out.
Love make the workplace a place you love to go, the people you work with are people whom you love to meet, and the job you are doing is not a compulsion, but something you enjoy doing. There are times when you feel stuck. Tell yourself that, “As long as I am here, let me do this job well and like my surroundings.” This sort of a mindset can only happen if you are willing to begin to like the present situation.

FEEL LOVE
There are some of us who cannot feel the feeling of love for others. This could be because of the traumas of childhood. Men (often unknowingly) tend to suffer more from this disability than women, and tend to avoid close relationships and even in a close relationship, hesitate to articulate the words, I love you. The most important step you can take is to decide you want to feel love, and whether you want to receive love. The ability to say that you love someone with feeling is essential. The ability to appropriately express these words in a non- sexual context to men, women and children is a good indicator of emotional health. Studies prove that the more of love/like you pour into a person, you enable that person to in turn, give away to others that much of this positive emotion. You are enhancing his self-esteem by unconditionally loving him.

EXPRESS LOVE
Express love by whatever means you can. Hugging is a natural expression of love between any two people of any gender in some parts of the world. Perhaps if we get over the hang-up of sexual connotations of such physical contact, we will be able to indulge in hugging at least a person of the same gender as we would a child. We are opening our doors to receive some affection, and when we receive some, we will be able to give more.