Fighting with spouse can actually be good for your health. With people who bottle it all up die earlier, a new study shows. A study held by the researchers at the University Of Michigan School Of Public Health and its psychology department released preliminary findings after 17 years of following 192 couples. In the study the couples fell into four categories: where both partners expressed anger when they felt unfairly attacked, where neither partner expressed their anger, and one category each for where the wife suppressed her feelings and where the husband did so.

So does it ring any alarming bell or remind you of some incident if you are married. Remember you don’t express your feelings to your partner and tell them what the problem is when you’re unfairly attacked, and then you're in trouble. The study found that those who kept their anger in were twice as likely to die earlier than those who don't. There were 13 deaths in the group of 26 pairs where both partners suppressed their emotions, as opposed to only 41 deaths in the remaining 166 pairs. When couples get together, one of their main jobs is reconciliation about conflict.

Usually nobody is trained to do solve the conflict and don’t really know how to overcome this. If they have good parents, they can imitate, that’s fine, but usually the couple is ignorant about the process of resolving conflict. The study said resentment was the real threat, and suppressing anger led to resentment. The resentment that interacts with any medical vulnerability a person might have, increasing their chances of succumbing to that medical problem. It is healthy to recognize that you are being attacked unfairly and it is even more healthy to speak up and to talk about it and try to resolve the problem if you want to live longer.

It is natural for any couple to fight over issues. But not solving them will make a pile of issues over the period of time which can be quite dangerous for your health as it can lead to nervous breakdown or depression. One can sometimes get into drugs. Drugs could wreak havoc with personal and work relationships. Not solving issues and turning your mind to technology busters like passing time with TV or getting addicted to the computer etc. Technology can overloaded and suffer consequences in personal life. Technology might be just as addictive as alcohol our relationships.

It's all about teaching people how to manage their behavior in a healthy those who hide their anger likely to die earlier than those who don’t. So next time something bothering you in relation to your spouse talk it through. Fight it over for once and for all for that issue. Do not bring past issues. Let the resolved ones be the ones in that criteria only and when you declare the issue to be over make sure it is even in your heart. Fighting and solving it will not only give you a long life but a long relationship too.