Being able to marry the man you love is a wonderful thing but before you take the plunge do a reality check on the future. Our experts asked around and got an earful of advice:
Unexpected things happen when you married your boyfriend:
• The boyfriend is the trailer, as husband he is full feature film, says one experienced voice. The promos are slick and promising but the product doesn’t always turn out what you expect.

• In his newly acquired role as husband, the former boyfriend is going to display hitherto unseen behavior you didn’t think he was capable of.

• Doesn’t expect him to remain the perfect gentleman. It was an act he managed to pull off only in courtship days and disappeared somewhere between the honeymoon and setting up the house.

• Behind every adoring boyfriend lurks a conservative husband. Chances are that he is not comfortable with other males eyeing his wife.

• The romance is still there but in well spaced installments.

• You were walking guide to the city’s hottest pubs and restaurants in your courtship days. Now the home becomes the best hang out in the weekends.

• You thought you had a lot in common. That’s until the mystery about his nature unfolds in front of you in slow movie.

• You stop thinking why you fight. In fact, you start missing it on the days you don’t.

• You come back home to discover that you are going to dinner with three of his friends and their insufferable wives.

• This was the guy who thought nothing about driving 20 extra miles to pick you up and drop you home. Now he tells you to take a cab.

The dos and don’ts:
• You may have wanted to spend every waking moment together in the days of yore but now that you actually does it? It’s time to give each other breathing space every once in a while.

• Do forget the phrase: you weren’t like this before.

• Marriage means responsibility. And additions to your growing family and friends. Get ready for social obligations and don’t start blaming it on each other.

• Don’t expect him to pamper you all the time. Let him be himself and look forward to the pleasant surprise when he does come up with some great pampering plans.

• Don’t start taking each other for granted. Make time for sweet nothings, even if you are out of practice.

• You may have wined and dined in style earlier but marriage brings with it tons of responsibilities and requirements. Don’t sulk if your man stops spending lavishly on you.