A lot of women find themselves married to men they wouldn’t marry again, given the choice. Because, sometimes you can’t stand your husband, sometimes you couldn’t care, but into marriage, a little indifference does fall. Sometimes there are no quick fixes. Yet such marriages have worked. There is a strategy and order to all things. So here psychologist, counselor and a management trainer helps you out.
Experts say, after realization that the man is not what you thought would be, you will feel tremendous frustration. If you’re stronger, bolder type of girl, you may think of drastic action of remoulding the man. If you’re doormat type, you will leave everything to fate and ruin your life. The only strategy is adjustment, giving and taking. We’re not talking about marriages in which there is a abuse and torture. We’re talking about a state of the union where he just doesn’t ring your bells, or you don’t ring his. So, we are looking at your happiness, your options to carry on as a wife and mother with commitments and yet be able to find joy in living. If however, happiness lies in ending a relationship, then so be it, but let it be done with grace and dignity.
Work with yourself: If you decide to work on marriage, take time, but also understand that time will run out. You need to make beginning. Think objectively and without bias and take a step forward to make the marriage better for you. The decision has to be yours. During this process, try to derive inspiration from happenings around you, from stories you heard, the quotes you have read. You need to be completely aware of your own strengths and weaknesses, your level of tolerance. Your knowledge of self will be the first step in the direction of happiness through alternatives.
Making the best of a situation: As we all know that we are center of our families, so it is up to you only, who gives direction to the family and your deft handling of a given situation can reduce tensions, and make the atmosphere congenial to happiness and joy. Compromise and adjustment are an inherent part of every marriage. Very few couples are ideally suited to each other. It is important, therefore, to fortify yourself and protect your interests. So begin today to reinvent yourself and rewire the marriage.