One actor was awarded for his very first movie and one fan asked him the secret of his success. He answered that he has been acting day and night for last 10 years. But ‘this is your first film?’ the fan surprisingly asked. And the actor replied, ‘But I have been married for last 10 years.’
It holds so much true that ‘Love is blind and Marriage is an eye opener’. In married life, along with the sweet memories you tend to see whenever friends visit you after so long, comes the sour moments too where you lose temper, fight and then make up. All couples fight now and then and sometimes this episode can take an entirely different picture. An intelligent couple is the one which masters the skills of fighting and makeup, and takes it like a game which not only keeps their relationship lively, but also deepens their roots of love. To win the game, knowing the rules is essential.
• Never use physical abuse or mental abuse, like using insulting words or bad mouthing, while addressing each other.
• Never run off your responsibilities against each other even if you are upset with each other.
• Give your spouse a chance to make up. Locking yourself up in the room or leaving the house won’t offer any solution.
• Sex is an important part of happy married life. Don’t use it as a weapon against each other.
• Don’t relate past issues in present fights.
Every body has their own distraught styles. Some practice the silence treatment; some undertake tear and blackmail treatment. Some like to be loud and some involve the crowd. But this melodrama takes place because you are hurt. So now, who takes the first step to make things ok? It is very essential for healthy married life that we keep aside our ego and give our relationship another chance.
• The one who has hurt the other because of his carelessness should take the first step to say sorry.
• If you are angry because your partner can’t meet your demands which are out his reach, leave your demands or soon he will leave you.
• Respect each others’ opinion rather than getting into disagreements.
• Don’t pressurize solutions; instead give space to each other.
Generally, we spend lot of time together in the initial years of marriage and then start taking things for granted. Be in a relationship the way you will be 10 years from now, and then trust me you won’t be pretending with your own life. Knowing your life partner’s likes, dislikes and hobbies will make things easy for the make up. Saying sorry won’t make you small, but it will make your marriage last long. Doing things together, spending quality time, gifting without any reason will not only clear the misunderstanding, but will also lay down the foundation for a stronger relationship in future. The trick I personally use is KISS ‘N’ MAKE UP.