Our teens nowadays face overwhelming issues. It’s no wonder that these years because of poor decision making, results in battleground between parents and teens. So here are some principles which will guide you to develop an internal framework and moral compass to stay centered during these turbulent years:

You’ll have to realize that you’re a part of something bigger: A connection with spirituality sustains teenagers throughout their inherently rocky transition into adulthood. Kids want and need to define their own sense of spirituality. Parents need to join their teens in this exploration process, as their children quest for an understanding of the universe and an individual sense of spirituality.

Feel yourself, that life is connected and has meaning: Adolescents need opportunities to recognize that they are not alone; no matter how different from their peers they may feel. Teens hunger to be part of a something. Their need for acceptance runs deep. Always support your teens in developing a deeper connection with the natural world. It also adds social activism and reaching out to others in need gives teens typically struggle with a low self image, at the same time that their need for love and acceptance is at an all time high.

The words you use can change their lives: Tell your teenagers how they delight you, how much you respect their choices, your amazement at their abilities, or your appreciation of the way they solved a problem. We need to remember that teens typically struggle with a low self image, at the same time that their need for love and acceptance is at an all time high. So now it’s time to flood them with positive words. Loving words from a parent fuels a child. Your positive, authentic words can be the grace that selves their fragile egos.

Listen to what they have to say: The overwhelming response was unexpected because they didn’t want more freedom, a later curfew, or another gadget; instead teens wished their parents actually listened to them more often. Teens simply want to be heard and respected.

Always support their dreams and manifest miracles: By helping teens nurture their internal vision of who they are, we may be able to spare them years spent pursuing goals far astray from their personal dreams. We can help them find an authentic sense of purpose in the world, something that comes from connecting the deep currents in their hearts with the abilities of their hands and minds.

Awaken wonder and spirit flows: Teenagers crave for magic, that moment when time stands still and we’re drawn outside our usual busy selves to find something rich and peaceful. Experiences and perceptions that go beyond the ordinary soothe a soulful yearning. Teens have to learn how to silence their ever present internal critic in order to experience being fully present in an experience. It’s hard to be in awe if you’re worried about how your hair looks.

You’ll have to be willing to shift the rules: Parents have to be willing to shift the rules and become more flexible so that their kids can mature into their fully realized selves. By the time children reach their teens years, parents have gotten COM placement about setting rules and creating family guidelines. The revisiting of these parameters provides important perceptions of safety and predictability to teens can function freely.

Parents to act as role model for their kids: Teenage research unlimited found that 70 percent of teenagers name their mom or dad as the person they most admire and also want to be like them. Parents need to realize that who are is much more important than what we say during these years. Teens, while unwilling to listen to our words of wisdom, learn volumes from observing us, even when we think they’re not paying the remotest attention.

Let go and trust them: Everyone hits rough patches in parenting, and they can occur almost daily during adolescence. But it is critical during these most trying of times to release our own feelings of shame, guilt, frustration and pain and remember that we are in spiritual partnership with our teenagers. By letting go of the feelings of struggle, we can strengthen ourselves in the peace of trust. Trust, while still keeping a watchful eye on them.

Beginning anew usually means making small changes in the right direction, sometimes a quantum leaps towards a perfect relationship. It is true that the small day to day stuff that can shift the tense relationship with your teen, one thoughtful compliment a day, and replacing irritation with understanding or suggesting options rather than suggesting solutions. Just when you’ve been counting the months until they leave the nest, suddenly, a whole new direction takes root and you can enjoy your precious and rebellious teen.