Have you observed the kids of today’s times? They make their decision themselves and they seem to know their mind well which is very different from our times. So what has changed? The ability to forward-plan usually increases a child's success, and allows him/her to structure his/her time and effort more effectively. There are children who are naturally reflective and cautious, while others tend to act impulsively.

Some children plan ahead and make a decision only after they have thought long and hard about the problem facing them, having weighed up the advantages and disadvantages very carefully until they are absolutely certain that this is the right way forward. These children lead with their head, make advanced plans and think before they act. Others, however, make decisions instantly, without spending much time planning ahead or considering the implications of their choice. It is the first feeling that counts for these children; their response is emotional, not rational. They lead with their heart and act without forward-planning

These characteristics tend to be very stable during childhood, which means that a child who is reflective at the age of five or six years is likely to be reflective when she is older, and the same applies to the impulsive child. An impulsive child typically makes more mistakes than the one who pauses before acting, because she makes her choice so quickly; the reflective child, on the other hand, makes wrong choices less frequently. Yet some decisions have to be mode instantly.

Children can be divided into two groups when it comes to tackling a problem or making a decision:

REFLECTIVE
The reflective child likes to take an overview before making up her mind. Reflective child is not cold and methodical; they simply prefer to have all the facts to help them plan ahead. They think deeply about things, examining the alternatives in great detail before committing themselves to a course of action.

IMPULSIVE
The impulsive child likes to reach a decision almost instantly, without a planning strategy. Their reluctance to consider the pros and cons is not laziness; they just prefer to get the matter over and done with. The impulsive child lets her heart rule over her head.

If your child is impulsive, you can help her to become more reflective. Conversely, if your child is reflective, it might be helpful if she listened to her heart to some extent, you can encourage her to become more impulsive.

Here are some tips to deal with the decision making issue:

1. Try to give the child enough confidence so that he becomes more decisive.

2. Encourage the child to follow through with his plan as soon as he makes up his mind.

3. Point out how every decision he needs to make has more than one possible outcome.

4. Praise the child when he does take a little more time than usual to reach an answer.

5. Give the child lots of approval when he acts decisively and confidently.