Some fathers are strict, some are lenient, some scold their children on their mistakes and some will hug them. All fathers have a different way of dealing with their children but one thing is for sure that they don’t love them any less than the mothers. A mother is with the child most of the times and though the time spent by the father is less, but if it is the quality time, the kid is going to bond with his father forever. The only times fathers fail at being ‘dad’ are the times they fail to cater their children’s needs. With some men fathering instincts may come easily, others can always cultivate them.
FATHERLY WAYS TO BOND
Fathers interact with their kids in more playful ways than their mothers like teasing, playing games etc. Show them that are your way of loving them. Kiss them, hug them and also do the silly things only you could do with them. Make them know that their work be it small or big is like an achievement and you are proud. Help them in homework or make them learn their favorite sport. The best thing a father could do to show love to his kid is to love his mother. Demonstrating affection to the mother is a reassuring element for your children. Do an activity together with your kid like kicking a ball, carrying him piggy back for a walk to the park, teaching them to dance on your feet etc. They will treasure it for the lifetime. Even if you are in a rush and your child is troubling you spend five minutes with him/her. Those 5 to 10 minutes of spontaneous chats will help you bond with your kid.
THE DISCIPLINE FACTOR
Some dads want to play the goody and leave the discipline factor to the moms. A child respects and needs limits. Sometimes a father is afraid to discipline because he may be rejected by the child. The truth is, when discipline is fair, and ground rules are set against a backdrop of love, the kids feel protected. A child feels more secure with a father who shows his displeasure if necessary. Discipline is one of the most durable gifts you can give your child because it involves a clear loving purpose to correct behavior.
MAKE YOUR KID EXCEL
Studies show that children whose fathers are highly involved in their child’s schooling have higher grades. Attend PTA meetings and school functions. Boost up you child’s strengths with words and labels that are build-ups and not put-downs. Praise genuine good qualities. Love your child and don’t make the performance an appraisal for your child’s love. Accept him with his plus and minus points. Encourage what he is good at and don’t force what he does not like to do. Constant criticism and carping can make a boy feel inferior, peculiar and rebellious. Enjoy your kid with all his perfections and imperfections.