Well, we all know that childhood is naturally full of problems and conflicts, so to LABEL any of our children’s behavior a ‘problem’, we need to ask ourselves a number of questions:
How often a certain kind of misbehavior does occur?
For example if your child is short tempered, anger may be his natural reaction to disappointment. However, if becomes too angry that he becomes violent or injuring him self or others, we need to find a way at least to reduce that intensity of his anger.
Do I tolerate my child’s misbehavior?
Somewhat our protective attitude or needs may allow ourselves to tolerate or even find amusing, some behavior other parents find intolerable. A parent who accepts what a child does at home may realize that other parents will not disapprove of it. So the parents may decide then to do something about the misbehavior.
Solving the problem:
Children do not see their behavior or they have not yet learnt more self controlled ways of seeking satisfaction. In order to solve the problem, we parents need to become more disciplined that leads to orderliness and self control. Parental behavior must change before their children’s behavior most likely to change and parents become disciplined parents before their children will most likely become self disciplined.