We all get angry at kids as parents and often in that anger we talk to them which may leave negative feelings in them for a lifetime. Statements like, “Didn't I warn you this would happen?” or “Your problem is you are just plain lazy.” Or “There’s no point even to talk to you. You are never going to accomplish anything.” Such remarks are very harmful for the child’s psychology and parents wrapped in their own anger and frustration, demean and alienate their children making a bad situation worse. Now and then, we all say insensitive things to our children. A persistent pattern of such remarks may do lifelong damage. Children learn most of their communication skills in the home. Children who are chronic targets of insults and criticism grow into adults who tend to resort to the same negative language. This may cause them difficulties on the job, as well as with their spouses and their own children,
 
If you too can relate to it as parents and think that you too are guilty do read on as the following are the most destructive comments that parents direct at their children. You may be undermining your child’s sense of well-being both today and in the years ahead.

1. You should have done it this way or other criticism remarks.
When praise is mixed with criticism, kids tend to focus on the down side. If your five-year-old makes her bed, and you immediately plump up the pillow while telling her what a good job she did, she says to herself, Mommy tells me I did a good job, but I guess I should've done this better. Even if you do it with constructive intentions, it might not be served at the right moment. Even constructive criticism can sting when it is delivered at the wrong moment.

2. Teasing
Teasing that comes from parents is the most painful teasing of all. Children look to their parents to tell them who they are in this world. Teasing creates uncertainty because a child never knows how serious the parent is. And that uncertainty often persists. For instance your child may be overweight but teasing them constantly on that hurt their feelings and that sensitivity to teasing can get carried over into early adult years.

3. Telling them that they do not mean that.
Even when say while joking that, ‘You don’t mean that.’ It affects the child more seriously. When we continually deny their feelings, kids think they should not express their emotions. When we continually deny their feelings, our children get the message that they should not express them. They begin to think that they are supposed to keep anger and other emotions to themselves. When a child expresses acute disappointment or a negative emotion don’t contradict it. Instead, listen to what they have to say, and acknowledge their feelings with respect. Once a child’s feelings have been acknowledged, they will begin to deal with them and perhaps find their own solution.