Your ability to bounce back from the ups and downs of everyday life influence on the level of happiness of your children. It is amazing how some easily with the rough-and-tumble of life are immune to others and appear resistant to upsets. And maybe that’s the reason why one child is stronger than others. One child is so confident about oneself than the other. Certainly, you only need of children interaction to see that some will be still happy without a care in the world, while others sink into a bad mood with no reason at all. A lack of confidence leads to unhappiness, weak and levels of anxiety. An adult confidence depends a lot on his confidence as a child.

Talk to your children often. Make the children understand that mistakes and failure are part of the discussion of feelings, aspirations. It helps children develop empathy and understands feelings of other people. Such discussions provide the children with demanding but manageable challenges. Give your child some space and let the children to be independent, and to manage without constantly asking for help. Do welcome initiative, even if the idea turns out to be less successful than anticipated. Some children burst into tears at the first sign of adversity while others seem able to ride the storms of childhood.

Listening to the child’s anxieties, such as being afraid to go o the party because he was worried that others will ignore him, will show him that you take him seriously and will help rebuild his self-esteem. If your child spends too much time worrying about what he thinks he can t do, he soon forgets about all the things he can develops into a negative spiral in which his confidence tumbles lower and lower. If your child acts negatively when the child faces a new challenge - for instance, he expects to fail or assumes that he won’t be as well liked as the others. Encourage him to think positively.

Talk to him about the reasons why he needs so much reassurance, and suggest alternative ways in which he could respond. For example, instead of crying, suggest that he says, ‘I don't care what you say’ ask him to explain to you what he is afraid of and let him see that you understand his concerns. Then give him plenty of reassurance and, where possible, suggest basic coping strategies, such as smiling even when he is nervous and making good eye contact. Shift his focus on to his abilities, not his deficits, by pointing out all his good points. Remind him of his previous achievements, and reassure him that he is just as capable now as he was then.

Tell your child that you think he is great and that you believe in him. Encourage your child to have positive thoughts by saying to himself, for instance, he can do this well1 or ‘The children will like me’. Known as 'positive self-talk', this form of inner language can significantly lift his self-confidence.