Many parents greet their children’s teenage years with needles dread .While teens may assault us with heavy metal music, wear outlandish clothes and spend all their time with friends, behavior scarcely adds up to full scale revolt. The idea that teenagers inevitably rebel is a myth that has the potential for great family harm. I believe that notion can damage communication during the critical time for parents to influence youngsters. Still, adolescence is often a trying time of transition for child and parent. Teenagers need to establish themselves as individuals in their own minds and in the eyes of others. So this isn’t about rebellion, it’s about becoming of one’s own. Here are some ways parents can help:
Don’t stereotype: Parents who expect teenage rebellion may actually foment.
There’s table pattern to teenage behavior, and as a typical teenager your teen is now larger, stranger, older and smarter than before, with an additional supply of hormones rafting through the bloodstream. But he or she is the same human being you have lived since birth. Given a chance, your son or daughter will continue to behave in ways you have established so when parents overreact, teens assert themselves more, parents clamp down harder, and a full-scale blow up results.
Remain as a parent:
While you want to be a friend to your sharing confidences and triumphs, such friendship does not equality. There are three types of parent: permissive, autocratic and authoritative .Permissive parents are either indifferent to their kids or try to win them over by allowing full freedom. Autocratic parents dictate, down to the last detail. The authoritative parent considers the child’s viewpoint and then decides. Kids prefer the authoritative style, which gives leeway but also sets firm limits it shows that parents who allow their teens freedom with responsibility, and within disciplinary limits, have more influence than either autocratic parents or permissive parents.
Pick your battles and talk now: 
If however, he or she asks to attend a party where you suspect drugs might be used, put your foot down –hard-and keep it there. Don’t wait to harm your son about drunk driving until the night he calls from the police station. Imparting family values is a long term process. Start early. Then, during the teens, reinforce the lessons. 
Don’t take it personally:
A "rebellion" that at first seems directed at you may turn out to be nothing of the sort.
Remember, too, that parents often serve as handy scapegoats for disappointments in kids lives:"if you’d let me go out and socialize like other kids, I’d be more popular”. In answering such complaints, focus on the issue rather than the accusation. Say” I love you and worry about you and I don’t think someone your age should stay out past midnight.”
Examine your own reactions :
It’s human nature to yearn for the days when you cuddle a child in your arms. Let’s face it; after twelve years being the centre of that child’s universe, you may now feel relegated to the side lines. As you watch your "baby” flower into an adult, you’ll discover the new phase is equally fulfilling.
Don’t forget to laugh:
When your children were teens, a sense of humor helps keep things in perspective, and that is the key. Parents who can perceive the difference between important issues and trivial ones will be able to guide their children through the teen years with far less storm and stress than they ever expected possible.