Shouting and spanking are quite natural responses to misbehavior, especially continued misbehavior. But they are also quite counterproductive. They never teach appropriate behavior which is the number one task of parenting. In fact they teach just the opposite like how to shout, how to hit, how to fear, how to take anger out on others etc. What we often do is shout at or spank our children, especially if we are tired or distracted or frustrated by their failure to obey us. Often children may not feel good about it. When we strike our children to get our way, we don’t teach them anything more than that they will be hurt if they repeat the behavior. Your child also deserves respect. So when you are shouting, it is ineffective unless you raise your voice on rare occasions, yelling at children has little impact. Often the after effects are negative. There are many consequences that are faced by the parents when they shout or spank their children.

Breakdown of communication between parents and kids :
Children see the world in concrete terms when they see that it is permissible for adults to hit children; they assume it must be permissible for children to hit adults also. While doing this kind of practice, often children cut off from their parents for behaving badly and sometimes, stop talking to their parents. Therefore, this type of hitting results in anger, revenge and breakdown of communication between parents and their kids. Some parents may also experience a serious withdrawal of affection.

Shouting  and spanking give the wrong messages to children
The primary message given when parents shout or spank is that adults are stronger and more powerful than children and can inflict fear and pain if displeased. In these situations we teach children that the mighty rule the weak. The resulting sense of being a victim and being powerless in the face of greater size and strength creates fear and anxiety in children, and ultimately they desire to use violence themselves when upset.

Children become violent because of continue spanking and hitting
One of the main consequences of hitting or shouting is that children learn to behave in violent ways through adult examples. Children are like wet clay. They are at a very impressionable age and pick things up very quickly with their keen sense of observation. By learning this kind of violence children find a way to get what they want, or protect themselves from a perceived threat.

Does shouting and spanking help us as parents:
We believe that it’s vitally important for every parent to be aware of the dangerous consequences of the use of violence in any form , either threatened or actually inflicted on a child. Further, shouting or spanking to manage children’s behavior erodes their ability to be empathetic. No positive consequences result from spanking and shouting and often the effects are negative and long term. Punishment is the least effective means of changing behavior. If smacking children worked, we should only have to spank them once.

At last, I would like to say if we as parents, act as role model for our children, we don’t have to display the violent behavior. It makes little sense for us to hit our children. There is nothing that a spanking accomplishes, that can’t be accomplished , even if it takes a bit longer.