With open arms he stood there
Seeking for his share of love ‘n’ care
I promise I will succeed
Accept me as I am is all I need
Let me wear my heart & it will become true
Any obstacle may come with your support, I’ll be through.
World is changing. By gone are the days when there were 7-8 children at home and parents did not know their birth days well. Today, with emergence of more and more nuclear families and one or two children in the family; every parent wants the best for their child as per their standards of living. But with so much exposure, our children’s right upbringing has also become a bit tough.
Parents not only want their child to excel in studies but also expect him/her to be an all rounder, so that they can rub their collars up among friends. To fulfill their most cherished dream, they continuously pressurize the child which may harm his/her personality in long run. The success of your child is influenced by your behavior with your child. Few things to be kept in mind are:
DON’T IMPOSE YOUR DESIRES ON YOUR CHILD.
Sometimes we impose our desires on children taking no consideration of the talent they possess. We compare our children with others and we force them into something he is not even interested in, or sometimes things which we never got a chance to do. We try fulfilling those desires through our children. If our desires don’t match with our children’s, then it will degrade not only their confidence but also induce guilt feeling that they could not meet your expectations.
KNOW YOUR CHILD’S STRENGTHS AND WEAKNESSES
It is very important that you know your child inside outside. You as a parent should know what your child is good at. Every one of us has something special. It is not necessary that your child is great in studies; he could be good at sports also. An intelligent parent will work on the strengths of the child to make him/her a master in those respective skills.
STRIKING THE RIGHT BALANCE
It is very important to spend quality time with the child. Fathers and mothers should strike the right balance with their work and how much time they spend with the child. In such a way, you will implement family values, trust and friendship in your children which will help them to open up easily with you.
ACCEPTANCE
Accepting the child with all his weaknesses boosts the morale of the child and cultivates the scope of improvement. Comparisons not only pressurize children but also deteriorate their self respect.
The child idealizes his parents the most. Setting up a good example to them is very significant. The key lies in accepting your children the way they are and loving them unconditionally despite of their flaws. You’ll not only be a proud parent to witness your child’s success but also have a life long bond with them.