“Making the decision to have a child – its momentous. It is to decide forever to have your heart go walking around outside your body.”
So well said!……you can understand such feelings only after having the experience of motherhood. Being a mother is a unique adventure, unlike any other experience on this earth. There is nothing that will stretch you so far beyond anything you previously imagined. However, if you experience the role of a mother, you can be certain that how it is different from any other role you have played in your life until now.

In the age of early thirties, I was still a wife, not had any experience of being a mother. But generally when I used to see other of my friends with their kids, always a question stopped me, after all, how it is like to be the mother of a child, the caretaker of a tiny helpless human being…..and to gradually wean and empower him to live a healthy, happy and successful life.  

And just after a year of that, I also got lucky to have this awesome experience of my own. When I was pregnant, I didn’t really think clearly about how things would be after the birth of my child. I knew, I would need to learn to care for my body, but I never really absorbed the fact that his very survival depend on me. When me and my husband, first brought our baby home, like so many other couples, we were beleaguered.  My son’s basic needs are very simple, but when you added them all up, there is so much to do. Between creating a feeding schedule , changing diapers, ensuring good sleep patterns, bathing, doctor’s visit and everything else that must get done in an average day, life becomes like a roller- coaster of such new responsibilities. As time passed, the care taking started to become more natural. But, I still remember that it took a real shift in my thinking for him to be able to stop into this new world of responsibility.

The good news is that the first few months pass rather quickly. As the first learning curve comes to an end, however, new challenges, tasks and responsibilities arise. Next comes the duty of keeping your child safe, both with in your home and outside in the world. Then comes the challenge of teaching him- to walk, to hold utensils, to drink from a cup, to use a toilet, to talk, change with age and time, but the overall responsibility is there, in varying ways, until they are grown and able to care for themselves and beyond.

I can compare motherhood to any number of things. It is a unique process, an adventure, a miracle or you can say a graduate course in a school of life. It is a unique process to each woman and no two mothers have the same experience. Having a child is entirely different from getting married. Having a partner come the closest; in that case he requires the skills of communication, negotiation, give and take, love and intimacy. And becoming a mother is entirely different, however, in that it requires all of you all the time.

As a mother, you never really stop feeling responsible for your children. My mother, who is 62 now, still she worries for me like I am still a child. That means, no matter how old our children get, in some ways they are always our babies. We see them got matured and grown, but the mother in us always holds them in our consciousness.
And that’s why it is said…  "No woman can call herself free until she can choose consciously whether she will or will not be a mother”.