Confident parents and competent teachers take pride in the jobs that they are doing and have possessive feelings about their small charges. But sometimes each side secretly feels that the child would cope better if the other would handle him more effectively. Together you can work at understanding your child, overcoming weak points, help develop a well-rounded person.

The following discuss it how:
In the very first week of a new term, meet your child’s class teacher and give her a short note detailing a clear history of your child’s past. Talk about the child’s allergies and illnesses. There is no need to corner the teacher and repeat the same stuff at every inopportune moment.
Don’t insist on a telephone number and take it only if preferred and use it reasonably, not to gossip about other parents and teachers and carp about marks.

Good manners and a strong sense of values at home and at school are crucial to a child’s growth.
Demand that your child consistently completes tasks at home from chores to homework satisfactorily and reward efforts with encouragement and praise. If your child grumbles about the teacher look at the issue objectively, without getting your own ego into a twist. Bailing your child out of tough spots and making excuses about questionable behavior and shoddy work does not help mould a useful adult. Never bad mouth the teacher in front of the child, but if you feel that your child is being picked on, first try to talk to the teacher to head off a personality clash. If this doesn’t work and your child still feels marginalized take up the issue with the Head Mistress

The parent-teacher partnership was responsible for the transformation. All children are not equal. Sometimes a teacher is not able to upturn talents and interests when the parent gives her a nudge. Any teacher worth her salt will appreciate this information.

Parents must be on guard against foisting their ambitions on your child. Take the teacher’s help to discover genuine aptitudes, not your own aspirations, for a rough career map. So, too, it is cruel to push a gifted child for double promotion with older, taller, stronger children; ask for an enrichment programmed instead. It helps to make an appointment to discuss these issues with the teacher. Accept the school’s suggestions if certain subjects are suggested.

Unusual circumstances such as a grandparent’s illness or death, loss of a job, separation of parents, sibling rivalry can reflect on school behavior and so can a bus bully, fear of a toilet accident or reciting in class. Physical problems with seeing and hearing, learning disabilities and Attention Deficit Hyperactive Disorder (ADHD) are usually discovered by an alert teacher. That’s why it is important for you to share what’s happening at home and combine these with what’s happening in school.

You have the right and the responsibility to take a very active role in knowing what happens in the school from days in the syllabi, fee hikes, to compulsory bus services. Joining the PTA is the only way to do this, rather than being critical from the outside. Attend meetings, lend a helping hand with activities, and get acquainted with parents, the Principal, the teachers.