Dealing With Feelings

It is quite natural to feel emotions, be it love or hatred, jealousy, joy, care or any other emotion. Sometimes we express them and sometimes we suppress them, as in the case of fear. This is for your own protection, or the very emotion of fear may incapacitate you. But suppressing emotions for long can put you in trouble making it difficult for a person to function in healthy feelings. Having recognizing your particular feeling and saying it loud, will serve as a first step of tackling it.

THE BIG QUESTION HOW!
Feelings come on to you with an instance. Like you laugh when you find something funny and you feel distress when someone hurts you. When we go against it; when don’t feel or we suppress what we feel we loose out on the capacity to feel, the capacity to emote, and consequently, the capacity to feel with others, and to feel for others. It is time we lifted all the barriers, opened all the floodgates, and let our body in its entirety experience all the feelings, totally and fully.

The first step in dealing with feelings is to express them in a physical way like speaking, writing, crying, shouting, laughing, or otherwise, acting out our emotions. Recognizing these feelings accepting can help you in dealing with them.

Expressing feelings is sometimes best done physically. Calmly saying, "I am angry," does not express the feeling. If you speak angrily, it releases more of the emotion. This can be done in private in a closed room; in fact, one can get a little more physical by say, punching a bag when you are angry. The only caveat here is that in getting physical, another person should not be injured by your activity. While punching a pillow is okay, punching or hitting another person is not okay. One can even try off steam but yelling, crying, running, dancing or whatever, and then relax to analyze the situation that triggered off the first hostile reaction. This physical activity is a temporary means of dissimulating your anger, and not a solution. The analysis that follows the "working off' of the anger is likely to yield results. This has to be worked out by each individual by himself as no two reactions of two human beings to the same situations are ever the same.

Sometimes, you feel negative more often. That is a signal that you need to reassess the situation and maybe, a confrontation is necessary. Following steps can be followed in dealing with an emotion.
1. Recognize it.
2. Own it: accept that you feel it.
3. Verbalize it: express it in words to yourself or to someone else.
4. Act out your emotions.
5. If a negative emotion persists or returns reassess the situation.